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To the editors:

Regarding "Life Without Father" (October 9):

Mothers tend to want daughters so as to have a companion, which may account for so many single-mothers-by-choice expressing a preference for girl children. ("I was horrified to find [my child] was a boy," says one mother quoted in the article. "When I was planning . . . I always assumed I would have a little girl.") Care should be taken, however, that lonely mothers do not elevate their children to peer status so superficially egalitarian ("She's my good buddy," says another mother of her seven-year-old daughter) that the children wind up having to mother their own mothers. Being a "good buddy" to an adult woman who executes complete control over your environment can be heavy responsibility for a seven-year-old searching for his/her own identity.

Mary Shen Barnidge

W. Dakin


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