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Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Mar 11, 2020
‘Sometimes I poop accidentally’

When an orgasm has unintended consequences
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Sex, orgasm, poop, vigorous, smoking, smells

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 21, 2019
Quickies

A would-be dynamic duo, a wannabe male unicorn, and more seek guidance from Uncle Dan.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Molly, oral sex, threesome, erectile dysfunction, ED, orgasm, Feeld, unicorn, polyamory, sexsomnia, consent, bukkake, come vs. jizz, open relationships, bad ideas

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 19, 2018
‘Is it OK to give myself permission to give up on partner-based climaxing?’

She's newly divorced and having the best sex of her life—isn't that enough? Plus: advice on when to reveal your "kink card," and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, orgasm, great sex, kink card, partner-based climaxing, kink-shaming, post-breakup friendship

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 4, 2018
Three-ways between friends and anxiety-induced orgasms: Here's why hundreds skipped Stormy Daniels on 60 Minutes

Dan Savage answers questions from a live audience in Michigan the same night as the porn star's interview.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Royal Oak Music Theatre, Savage Love Live, Stormy Daniels, 60 minutes, relationships, bi, hot wifing, cuckolding, stag-and-vixen play, swinging, porn, BDSM, infatuation, orgasm, sex toys, anal sex, Donald Trump

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 28, 2015
Do I qualify as asexual?

A onetime heterosexual wonders. Plus: a thong-loving ex-boyfriend, what those closed eyes mean (or don’t)
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, asexual, friends with benefits, no strings attached, David Jay, Asexual Visibility and Education Network, Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, University of British Columbia, masturbation, The Invisible Orientation, Julie Decker, Matthew Makela, Asexual Outreach, Grindr, orgasm

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 14, 2015
When your partner is 'one of those women'

Advice for a married man put out by the female anatomy. Plus: more on the price(s) of admission
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, clitoris, orgasm, marriage, transgender, cisgender, online dating, ejaculation

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 20, 2014
The kind of letter that gets Dan Savage in trouble

It's that kind of kink. Plus: knives and other sticking points of consensual bondage
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, trans guy, transgender, Dan Savage, Savage Love, clitoris, fetish, BDSM, gerbiling, Brian Fitzsimmons, University of British Columbia, orgasm, Jodi Arias, Travis Alexander, Nancy Grace, Kim Kardashian, bondage

Blogs, Bleader Nov 14, 2014
Professor Rahm lectures on contract law

Under fire from the Tribune on interest-rate swaps at CPS, Mayor Rahm tries to explain why investment bankers have more contractual rights than ordinary teachers, firefighters, and cops.
- By Ben Joravsky
- Tags: Politics, News, Chicago Tribune, Rahm Emanuel, Chicago Public Schools, David Vitale, Jason Grotto, Heather Gillers, interest rate swaps, Bruce Rauner, orgasm, Jay Cutler, Chicago Bears, Zits, K.C. Johnson, Chicago Bulls, minimum wage

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 28, 2014
Play ball!

Sex toys as an alternative to the turkey baster. Plus: a better method for kinksters with vanilla partners, sarcastic quips for silly questions, and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, orgasm, testicles, erection, Dan Savage, Savage Love, death grip masturbation, erectile dysfunction, ball clamps, ball stretchers, pro dom, water sports, piss play, kinksters, threesome, cribbage, pegging, santorum

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 7, 2014
Fed-up wife seeks enthusiastic oral

Plus: Women, too, can suffer from a form of Death Grip Syndrome.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, married sex, masturbation, oral sex, cunnilingus, missionary sex, doggy style, type A personality, sub, dom, gender roles, divorce, orgasm, Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 5, 2014
Just make the call

Plus: Pumping the brakes with anal sex, and retraining a dick to reach orgasm outside of masturbation.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex-work etiquette, long-distance phone interaction, het cis, Boston, Seattle, trans sex worker, Fox News, anal sex, sex toys, lube, friends with benefits, orgasm, masturbation, clitoris, Dan Savage, Savage Love

Blogs, Bleader May 30, 2014
Klute, Talk Radio, and other Reader-recommended movies to watch online this week

Reader film capsules guide what you should watch online.
- By Reader staff
- Tags: Old Movies to Watch Now, Film, Orgasm, Inc., Pi, The Fountainhead, Klute, Mary Poppins, Talk Radio, Tell No One, Old Movies to Watch Now, Netflix, Hulu, online streaming

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 26, 2013
Finger-blast from the past

Savage Love has been around for 20 years and people are still having trouble figuring out what the clitoris is all about. Here's a reminder from the archives.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Sophia Wallace, Cliteracy, clitoris, masturbation, orgasm, vagina, nympho, female anatomy, performance anxiety

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 5, 2013
Savage Love takes all comers

A quick Q&A to address various of your . . . needs
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, threesome, bondage, friend with benefits, orgasm, foot fetish, cross-dressing, lesbian, bi, straight

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 27, 2013
The enema within

A postmenopausal woman relearns an old trick. Plus: Mom can't find her clit, and a kinkster can't find her former libido.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, menopausal woma, libido, enema, maturbation, Leah Torres, obstetrician/gynecologist, colon, bowel movements, clit, vagina, estrogen, BDSM, polycystic ovary syndrome, hysterectomy, D/S, nympho, orgasm

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 18, 2013
Dick Hole, don't panic

Plus: Improved orgasms with weed!
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, betamethasone 0.05 percent, bondage, bris, cannabis, circumcision, clit, clitoral orgasm, Cosmo, foreskin, Glamour, intercourse, kinks, Manischewitz, marijuana, orgasm, Paraphimosis, phimosis, Preputial gymnastics, role-play scenes, sex, Stephen H. King, uncircumcised, urination, Washington State

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Mar 7, 2013
Rock out with your cock in

Notes on chastity belts
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, BDSM, male chastity device, ejaculation, orgasm, erectile dysfunction, blogging, food, politics, kink, urologist, Stephen H. King, Washington, Exoskeleton, the Torture Puzzle, CB-6000, the Grinder, cock ring, nocturnal erections, spontaneous erections, atrophy, Gay Male S/M Activists, foreplay

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Feb 7, 2013
Second wind of the cuckold

Giving an open relationship another chance. Plus: Vaginal sex is still not the only kind of sex.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, kink, cheating, dirty talk, OkCupid, sex, open relationship, polyamory, cuckolding, poly relationships, eroticized betrayal, orgasm, oral sex, vaginal sex, vibrator, sex positive, psychological block, masturbation, blue balls, lube, foreplay, midplay

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When an orgasm has unintended consequences

A would-be dynamic duo, a wannabe male unicorn, and more seek guidance from Uncle Dan.

She's newly divorced and having the best sex of her life—isn't that enough? Plus: advice on when to reveal your "kink card," and more

Dan Savage answers questions from a live audience in Michigan the same night as the porn star's interview.

A onetime heterosexual wonders. Plus: a thong-loving ex-boyfriend, what those closed eyes mean (or don’t)

Advice for a married man put out by the female anatomy. Plus: more on the price(s) of admission

It's that kind of kink. Plus: knives and other sticking points of consensual bondage

Under fire from the Tribune on interest-rate swaps at CPS, Mayor Rahm tries to explain why investment bankers have more contractual rights than ordinary teachers, firefighters, and cops.

Sex toys as an alternative to the turkey baster. Plus: a better method for kinksters with vanilla partners, sarcastic quips for silly questions, and more

Plus: Women, too, can suffer from a form of Death Grip Syndrome.

Plus: Pumping the brakes with anal sex, and retraining a dick to reach orgasm outside of masturbation.

Reader film capsules guide what you should watch online.

Savage Love has been around for 20 years and people are still having trouble figuring out what the clitoris is all about. Here's a reminder from the archives.

A quick Q&A to address various of your . . . needs

A postmenopausal woman relearns an old trick. Plus: Mom can't find her clit, and a kinkster can't find her former libido.

Plus: Improved orgasms with weed!

Notes on chastity belts

Giving an open relationship another chance. Plus: Vaginal sex is still not the only kind of sex.

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