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Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 29, 2020
My boyfriend just wants to be tied up, called names, and hurt

A conversation about kinks
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, kinks, dom, fetish

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Oct 23, 2019
School for sexual scoundrels

How can inveterate cheaters find happiness? Facing up to facts is a start.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, cheating, sexual scoundrels, ethical slutdom, polyamory, open relationships, DADT, slut shaming, kinks, infidelity, monogamy, co-parenting, GGG, good, giving, and game

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Oct 9, 2019
'Why do straight guys like anal so much?' and other questions from live audiences

After a brief tour of the upper midwest, Dan Savage delves into the queries he didn't get to.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Savage Love Live, Music Box Theatre, Chicago, Barrymore Theatre, Madison, Pantages Theatre, Minneapolis, vaginal play, anal sex, polyamory, open marriage, narcissistic cheaters, vengeful former affair partners, swingers, lesbians, long-term relationships, LTRs, kinks, sex toys, male chastity, Steelwerks Extreme, male chastity devices, cage wearer, postpartum sex, outercourse, vasectomies, introverts

Music, Concert Preview Apr 11, 2019
Recommended Video
Kinks guitarist Dave Davies continues to stake his claim as a rawk god at age 72
- By Steve Krakow
- Tags: Concert Preview, Dave Davies, Kinks, Decade, Recommended, Video

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 18, 2018
A 20-year-old bottom having an affair with a 50-year-old European dom wonders what’s next now that she’s a big girl

Plus: a #MeToo moment on the massage couch, a gay man with a thing for breasts wonders whether he's straight after all
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Fifty Shades of Grey, sadomasochism, illicit affair, grooming, kinks, sexuality, broken marriages, European attitude toward sex, #MeToo, erotic massage, full-body massage, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, BBC, bottom, Living my truth

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 4, 2018
Can sex get better after marriage?

Dan gets an earful from people whose sex lives improved after the event.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex after marriage, swinger, virgin, counseling, sex counseling, depression, anxiety, kinks, erectile dysfunction

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 25, 2018
A serial adulterer makes a case for himself, and gets reamed

Plus: What’s good for the gander is good for the gander.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, adultery, serial adultery, monogamy, ethical nonmonogamy, open relationships, affairs, divorce, couples counseling, cuckold, cuckquean, kinks, cheating, nonexclusive relationship

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 6, 2017
Lad wants ‘slutty’ girl, threesomes, cuckolding, etc

Is it crazy to be considering a reconciliation? Plus: Is my boyfriend using me for my mattress?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, kinks, cuckolding, slut fetish, monogamy, nonmonogamy, hot wife, one-night stands, George Santanaya, fancy mattress

Music, Gossip Wolf Oct 25, 2016
Bands dress up as better bands for Halloween at Cole’s

Plus: Gramps the Vamp celebrate their spooky, funky new LP, and south-suburban MC Calez raps about his impending fatherhood.
- By J.R. Nelson and Leor Galil
- Tags: Gossip Wolf, Cole’s, Chicago Singles Club, Halloween, cover bands, cover show, AC/DC, Meat Wave, Bleach Party, Rad Payoff, Weezer, Strawberry Jacuzzi, Sheep Numbers, Soddy Daisy, Kinks, New Drugs, Daft Punk, Sophagus, Misfits, Hymen Moments, Beck, Soft Candy, Jimmy Eat Girls, Jimmy Eat World, Radio Shaq, Devo, Big Joy, MTVghosts, Gramps the Vamp, Lincoln Hall, doom funk, The Cave of 10,000 Eyes, Kickstarter, Terrible Spaceship, North by North, Calez, 2008ighties, Baby

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 17, 2014
Handling your boyfriend's jealous assholery

Plus: More boyfriends! One who's enough of a man (but not a woman), and one who no longer can get the toes to curl in the bedroom.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, insecure, bisexual, jealous boyfriend, gay men, polyamory, threesomes, sex parties, swingers' clubs, kinks, fantasies, Dan Savage, Savage Love

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 10, 2014
Paying for sex as geezerdom looms

Plus: Leading on a fortysomething you don't want to fuck, and the etiquette of thrill seeking.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex work, prostitutes, marriage, long-term relationships, Savage Love, Dan Savage, bisexuality, kinks, fantasy, secret thrill

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Mar 13, 2014
Keeping the faith

Plus: Getting your kinks in without the sex, and taking precautions before embarking on a fantasy facial
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, terminal disease, marriage, therapy, infidelity, divorce, BDSM, Midwest, bondage, vanilla sex, D/s, spanking, kinks, facial, feminism, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jan 30, 2014
Ironing out the kinks

Tales from the BDSM zone: Ways to avoid the trolls, and a sub's troubles with dominating
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, BDSM, kinks, the kink community, Mollena Williams, trolls, Fet Life, ATL, iTaboo, BDSMfriendbook, OkCupid, Caryl's BDSM Page, Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities, Mollena Williams, Lee Harrington, bi girl, professional dom, Corsets, floggers, bondage gear, dungeon spaces

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 28, 2013
So I had casual sex with an ax murderer

Plus: Rob Delaney offers advice on dating someone with depression.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, depression, Rob Delaney, diet, exercise, Twitter, Rob Delaney: Mother. Wife. Sister. Human. Warrior. Falcon. Yardstick. Turban. Cabbage., sexually transmitted infections, ABDL, Fetlife, pedophilia, SSRIs, kinks

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 21, 2013
Hearts on fire (upper torsos too)

Plus: Are divergent libidos grounds to end a relationship?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex, virgin, libido, penetration, house party, volcano shots, burns, blindfold, leather, cuckolding, kinks, lesbian, bisexual, threesome

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 7, 2013
Septuagenarian seeks submissive sex

Plus: Does marriage spell the end of adventuring?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, marriage, kinks, vanilla sex, BDSM, Joan Price, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex, leather fetish, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge, Cleis Press, Tristan Taormino, Mollena Williams, Lee Harrington, Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities, children, parenting

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Oct 3, 2013
Kinky boyfriend needs a leg up

Plus: Top reasons why you should sleep with that colleague
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, straight male, monogamy, pedis, foot fetish, sexual boredom, kinks, crush, protective boyfriend

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 18, 2013
Does sex cause STIs?

And other uncomplicated questions. Plus: An easier anal experience.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, gay, STI, trans boy, hormone therapy, condom, unprotected sex, pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, HIV, bi, virgin, role-play, online sex, bachelor's degree, graduate school, online relationship, Internet, kinks, Skype, anal sex, lubrication, top, bottom, butt plugs, vibrating eggs, London, dungeon, Tumblr

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 18, 2013
Dick Hole, don't panic

Plus: Improved orgasms with weed!
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, betamethasone 0.05 percent, bondage, bris, cannabis, circumcision, clit, clitoral orgasm, Cosmo, foreskin, Glamour, intercourse, kinks, Manischewitz, marijuana, orgasm, Paraphimosis, phimosis, Preputial gymnastics, role-play scenes, sex, Stephen H. King, uncircumcised, urination, Washington State

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 19, 2012
My brother’s peeper

Kinky bros post pics online. Plus: separating extreme fantasies from an extremely bad past.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Australia, BDSM, violent sexual fantasies, extreme sexual fantasies, antidepressants, erotic humiliation, naked pictures, kinks

Arts & Culture, Art Critic's Choice Jun 21, 2012
"Kink," regular and super

Two artists interpret sexual idiosyncasy at Design Cloud Gallery
- By Sam Worley
- Tags: Art Critic's Choice, kinks, Harry Sudman, fetish gear, JoJo Baby, phallocentric art, erotic landscapes

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 15, 2012
Yes we cane

Plus: Fifty Shades of Grey, a legal gray area, and a shout-out to Obama
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, caning, Fifty Shades of Grey, BDSM, 2 Girls, 1 Cup, kinks, kinky sex, vanilla sex, sexual peak, slut shaming, public sex, masturbation, gay marriage

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 8, 2011
My husband has given me permission to do my first love. Should I?

Plus: a reactionary slave, please don't call us LGBT-friendly straight guys "queer"
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, first love, old flame, romance, GGG, marriage, BDSM, kinks, eroticization of power structures, sex slavery, fantasies, LGBT community

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 18, 2011
What's in a name

Should I call my sister out on Craigslist pics? Also: How do I get my foot fetishist boyfriend off?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Craigslist, horsecock, naked pictures, Rick Santorum, foot fetish, foot job, cuckhold fantasy, bastinado, kinks, foot fondling, toe sucking, slut shaming

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 11, 2011
Big Reveal

How Do I Tell My Girlfriend About My Pantyhose Fetish? Also: Do chicks dig bisexual guys?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, kinks, fetishes, pantyhose, cocksucking, foot fetish, sex, relationships, rejection, bisexuality, love, homoerotic fantasies

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