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Jul 18, 2018
A 20-year-old bottom having an affair with a 50-year-old European dom wonders what’s next now that she’s a big girl
Plus: a #MeToo moment on the massage couch, a gay man with a thing for breasts wonders whether he's straight after all
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Jul 4, 2018
Can sex get better after marriage?
Dan gets an earful from people whose sex lives improved after the event.
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Apr 25, 2018
A serial adulterer makes a case for himself, and gets reamed
Plus: What’s good for the gander is good for the gander.
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Jul 6, 2017
Lad wants ‘slutty’ girl, threesomes, cuckolding, etc
Is it crazy to be considering a reconciliation? Plus: Is my boyfriend using me for my mattress?
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Gossip Wolf
Oct 25, 2016
Bands dress up as better bands for Halloween at Cole’s
Plus: Gramps the Vamp celebrate their spooky, funky new LP, and south-suburban MC Calez raps about his impending fatherhood.
By J.R. Nelson and Leor Galil
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Apr 17, 2014
Handling your boyfriend's jealous assholery
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Apr 10, 2014
Paying for sex as geezerdom looms
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Mar 13, 2014
Keeping the faith
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Jan 30, 2014
Ironing out the kinks
Tales from the BDSM zone: Ways to avoid the trolls, and a sub's troubles with dominating
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Nov 28, 2013
So I had casual sex with an ax murderer
Plus: Rob Delaney offers advice on dating someone with depression.
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Nov 21, 2013
Hearts on fire (upper torsos too)
Plus: Are divergent libidos grounds to end a relationship?
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Nov 7, 2013
Septuagenarian seeks submissive sex
Plus: Does marriage spell the end of adventuring?
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Oct 3, 2013
Kinky boyfriend needs a leg up
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Savage Love
Jul 18, 2013
Does sex cause STIs?
And other uncomplicated questions. Plus: An easier anal experience.
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Savage Love
Apr 18, 2013
Dick Hole, don't panic
Plus: Improved orgasms with weed!
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Dec 19, 2012
My brother’s peeper
Kinky bros post pics online. Plus: separating extreme fantasies from an extremely bad past.
By Dan Savage
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Arts & Culture
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Art Critic's Choice
Jun 21, 2012
"Kink," regular and super
Two artists interpret sexual idiosyncasy at Design Cloud Gallery
By Sam Worley
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Savage Love
May 15, 2012
Yes we cane
Plus:
Fifty Shades of Grey
, a legal gray area, and a shout-out to Obama
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Dec 8, 2011
My husband has given me permission to do my first love. Should I?
Plus: a reactionary slave, please don't call us LGBT-friendly straight guys "queer"
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Aug 18, 2011
What's in a name
Should I call my sister out on Craigslist pics? Also: How do I get my foot fetishist boyfriend off?
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Aug 11, 2011
Big Reveal
How Do I Tell My Girlfriend About My Pantyhose Fetish? Also: Do chicks dig bisexual guys?
By Dan Savage
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Bleader
Dec 8, 2006
Creepy, class-conscious Christmas carols
In praise of platitude-free Christmas songs.
By Monica Kendrick
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