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Jan 24, 2019
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Dec 20, 2018
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Dec 13, 2018
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Dec 6, 2018
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Nov 30, 2018
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Nov 27, 2018
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Nov 15, 2018
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Nov 8, 2018
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Nov 1, 2018
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Oct 24, 2018
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Sep 26, 2018
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Sep 19, 2018
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Sep 12, 2018
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Aug 8, 2018
‘Help, I WANT SEX all the time, with all sorts of people!’
Is this a normal consequence of going off hormonal contraception?
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Aug 1, 2018
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Jul 18, 2018
A 20-year-old bottom having an affair with a 50-year-old European dom wonders what’s next now that she’s a big girl
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Jun 27, 2018
What to do when you’re stuck in a platonic marriage
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Jun 20, 2018
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Jun 13, 2018
‘Help, my wife has been sexting with a guy for more than a decade!’
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Jun 6, 2018
‘Help, I’m afraid my disgusting adult baby husband may choose his diapers over me!’
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May 30, 2018
‘Could my beautiful bottom boy be turning bi?’
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May 23, 2018
What to do when someone horns in on all the action at the orgy
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May 2, 2018
‘Can I ask my husband to stop shaving his pubes?’
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Apr 25, 2018
A serial adulterer makes a case for himself, and gets reamed
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