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Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jan 24, 2019
Furry porn, cuckolding, water sports

Advice on navigating consent and pleasure
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, furries, fetishes, fur suits, sexual incompatibility, open relationships, furry porn, cuckolding, cuckoldry, hotwife lifestyle, hot wife, cuckoldress, Keys and Anklets, BDSM, R. Kelly, water sports, Surviving R. Kelly, consent, negotiating consent, sex play, golden shower

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 27, 2018
What to do if your soul mate refuses to leave his wife

Dan's tips for pumping the brakes and breaking up.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Dan Savage, soul mate, triad, breakups, bondage, DTMFA

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 20, 2018
Wannabe face sittees need not apply—no really

Quick hits on kinks and consent. Plus: a short not sweet DTMFA.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Dan Savage, vibrators, Fetlife, revenge porn, Big/little kink, DTMFA

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 13, 2018
How to deal with sex-shaming family members over the holidays

Dan gives advice to a couple on tumblr, a "free sexual woman," and the younger half of an age-gap couple, all dreading upcoming gatherings.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, tumblr, sex-shaming, slut-shaming, straight-shaming, age-gap, porn, internet, family, holidays

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Dec 6, 2018
What to do when the sensation of sex is just too much—and not in a good way

Losing that cringey feeling. Plus: a primer on sex with male escorts.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Dan Savage, cringey, mostly straight, male escort, fleshlight

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 30, 2018
'Am I just bipolar and kinky? Are the two related somehow?'

Advice on avoiding a hypersexual state. Plus: Embracing hyperfeminine presentation, and more.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, bipolar disorder, Savage Love, Ellen Forney, kink, feminist, drag, Racism, blackface

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 27, 2018
Should she tell the man she's seeing about her new job as an escort?

A woman wonders how much to reveal to a beau, while another questions whether anal sex can ever be pleasurable.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Savage Lovecast, escort, bisexual, bisexuality, anal sex, GGG

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 15, 2018
‘I've always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me’

Tips for getting into bondage without being a menace or a creep. Plus: Dan issues the fastest DTMFA ever!
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, bondage newbie, bondage singles websites, BDSM, bondage, Justin Gorbey, kinkster, kink, munches, play groups, kink social groups, kink education groups, FetLife, nonmonogamous, monogamy, oral sex, DTMFA, Dan Savage, Savage Love, GGG, good giving and game, dump the motherfucker already, dominatrix, pro dom, pegging, strap-on

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 8, 2018
A ‘bear-built top guy’ worries that he‘ll never find a long-term relationship

Just sex and torture partners. Plus: when your little brother has always had a thing for rubber, and more.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, bear, top, S&M, long-term relationships, torture, heteronormativity, companionate marriage, rubber fetish, rubber gear, refractory period, multiple orgasms, Mary Jane Sherfey, women's sexuality

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 1, 2018
How to get your groove back after giving birth

A pelvic floor physical therapist comes to the rescue. Plus: Dan gives advice to a straight woman in love with a gay man.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, pelvic health, post-natal sex, sex toys, kink, trans woman, improv

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Oct 24, 2018
Constructive Advice Thoughtfully Sought by a gay young adult

A primer on pet-play fetishes. Plus: what do when your weed dealer pulls a Louis C.K., and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, pet play, kitten play, fetishes, puppy play, fetish kitty, Amp Somers, Watts the Safeword, kitten-play.com, gay kinksters, kink scene, BDSM, dungeon, gear, role-playing, FetLife, Facebook

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 26, 2018
Sixty-two and wondering what to settle for sexually after a new partner turns out to prefer his own hand

Is it so wrong to want to be desired? Plus: yes, women can be cuckolds, and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, sexual incompatibility, senior sex, Joan Price, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50, sexual fulfillment, friends with benefits, transgender woman, cis woman, cuckold, cuckqueen, voyeurism, jerk husband, divorce, consent

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 19, 2018
‘Is it OK to give myself permission to give up on partner-based climaxing?’

She's newly divorced and having the best sex of her life—isn't that enough? Plus: advice on when to reveal your "kink card," and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, orgasm, great sex, kink card, partner-based climaxing, kink-shaming, post-breakup friendship

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 12, 2018
Gay, middle-aged, and lonely as hell

Dan Savage advises a trio of late bloomers.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, gay, hookup aps, Michael Hobbs, Together Alone: The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness, depression, being single, loneliness, living alone, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, Eric Kleinbenberg, relationships, suicidal ideation, social anxiety, Stephen Fry

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 8, 2018
‘Help, I WANT SEX all the time, with all sorts of people!’

Is this a normal consequence of going off hormonal contraception?
Plus: wedding etiquette for nonhierarchal polycules
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, birth control, hormonal contraception, menstrual cycle, don’t ask don’t tell, DADT, NuvaRing, libido, menstruation, progesterone, open relationship, nonhierarchical polycule, polyamory, Flo, Clue, Period Tracker

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 1, 2018
‘Is it weird for a gay man to hang with straight women?’

Dan Savage advises a judgy, misogynistic BF pissed about BFFs.
Plus: up-and-down love, stanky-ass dick
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, gay couple, straight friends, straighties, drag shows, gay bars, neediness, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman, Gottman Institute, on-again off-again, personal hygiene, smelly penis

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jul 18, 2018
A 20-year-old bottom having an affair with a 50-year-old European dom wonders what’s next now that she’s a big girl

Plus: a #MeToo moment on the massage couch, a gay man with a thing for breasts wonders whether he's straight after all
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, Fifty Shades of Grey, sadomasochism, illicit affair, grooming, kinks, sexuality, broken marriages, European attitude toward sex, #MeToo, erotic massage, full-body massage, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, BBC, bottom, Living my truth

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 27, 2018
What to do when you’re stuck in a platonic marriage

Dan advises an unhappy wife—and the rest of us. Plus: a gay guy explains why he prefers straight dick.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, low libido, marital incompatibility, polyamory, gay guy, blow job, straight friend, enby, dick sucking, baggage, baggage free, platonic relationships

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 20, 2018
Can a straight guy ethically accept oral sex from his gay buddy?

And can another straight guy ethically refuse to give a blow job during a threesome?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, oral sex, blow job, straight guy, gay guy, threesome, reciprocation

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 13, 2018
‘Help, my wife has been sexting with a guy for more than a decade!’

A retroactive solution. Plus: What to do with a booty caller, and more
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, sexting, snooping, betrayal, infidelity, triggers, booty calls, relationship plateau, retroactive blessing

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 6, 2018
‘Help, I’m afraid my disgusting adult baby husband may choose his diapers over me!’

What to do when you're unwillingly married to a fetishist.
Plus: edging. Is it safe?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Dan Savage, adult baby, fetish, diaper porn, adult-size diapers, David Ley, ABDL, Pup Jackson, kink card, diaper lover, diaper fetishist, edging, masturbation, Ejaculation Frequency and Risk of Prostate Cancer, European Urology

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 30, 2018
‘Could my beautiful bottom boy be turning bi?’

What's up with a self-proclaimed gold-star gay's peculiar new interests? Plus: a relationship question that doesn't involve sex, and more.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, gold-star gay, lesbian porn, straight porn, MMF threesome, Fleshlight, biphobia, bi-curious, homo-flexible, courtesy, jack-off, hand job, masturbation, queer, poly, nonmonogamous, Maggie McNeill, sex workers, oral sex, blow jobs, the Nordic Model, SESTA, sex worker's rights

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 23, 2018
What to do when someone horns in on all the action at the orgy

Even if it’s the host. Plus: threesome success and lesbian special guests!
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, water sports, piss party, golden shower, orgy, group sex, piss play, etiquette, threesome, MMF threesome, use your words, special guest star, cis, lesbian, bisexual, queer, sexual identity, bad lesbian

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 2, 2018
‘Can I ask my husband to stop shaving his pubes?’

“Should I be concerned about my celibacy?,” and more questions from Uncle Dan’s grab bag.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, orgy, gang bang, reverse gang bang, pussy riot, sausage fest, clam bake, celibacy, me time, incel, involuntary celibacy, sex, initiating sex, older woman, shaved pubes, manscaping

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 25, 2018
A serial adulterer makes a case for himself, and gets reamed

Plus: What’s good for the gander is good for the gander.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Savage Love, adultery, serial adultery, monogamy, ethical nonmonogamy, open relationships, affairs, divorce, couples counseling, cuckold, cuckquean, kinks, cheating, nonexclusive relationship

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