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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Jun 29, 2020
My boyfriend just wants to be tied up, called names, and hurt
A conversation about kinks
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Oct 23, 2019
School for sexual scoundrels
How can inveterate cheaters find happiness? Facing up to facts is a start.
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Savage Love
Oct 9, 2019
'Why do straight guys like anal so much?' and other questions from live audiences
After a brief tour of the upper midwest, Dan Savage delves into the queries he didn't get to.
By Dan Savage
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Apr 11, 2019
Recommended
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Kinks guitarist Dave Davies continues to stake his claim as a rawk god at age 72
By Steve Krakow
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Savage Love
Jul 18, 2018
A 20-year-old bottom having an affair with a 50-year-old European dom wonders what’s next now that she’s a big girl
Plus: a #MeToo moment on the massage couch, a gay man with a thing for breasts wonders whether he's straight after all
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Jul 4, 2018
Can sex get better after marriage?
Dan gets an earful from people whose sex lives improved after the event.
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Apr 25, 2018
A serial adulterer makes a case for himself, and gets reamed
Plus: What’s good for the gander is good for the gander.
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Jul 6, 2017
Lad wants ‘slutty’ girl, threesomes, cuckolding, etc
Is it crazy to be considering a reconciliation? Plus: Is my boyfriend using me for my mattress?
By Dan Savage
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Music
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Gossip Wolf
Oct 25, 2016
Bands dress up as better bands for Halloween at Cole’s
Plus: Gramps the Vamp celebrate their spooky, funky new LP, and south-suburban MC Calez raps about his impending fatherhood.
By J.R. Nelson and Leor Galil
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Apr 17, 2014
Handling your boyfriend's jealous assholery
Plus: More boyfriends! One who's enough of a man (but not a woman), and one who no longer can get the toes to curl in the bedroom.
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Apr 10, 2014
Paying for sex as geezerdom looms
Plus: Leading on a fortysomething you don't want to fuck, and the etiquette of thrill seeking.
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Mar 13, 2014
Keeping the faith
Plus: Getting your kinks in without the sex, and taking precautions before embarking on a fantasy facial
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Jan 30, 2014
Ironing out the kinks
Tales from the BDSM zone: Ways to avoid the trolls, and a sub's troubles with dominating
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Nov 28, 2013
So I had casual sex with an ax murderer
Plus: Rob Delaney offers advice on dating someone with depression.
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Nov 21, 2013
Hearts on fire (upper torsos too)
Plus: Are divergent libidos grounds to end a relationship?
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Nov 7, 2013
Septuagenarian seeks submissive sex
Plus: Does marriage spell the end of adventuring?
By Dan Savage
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Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Oct 3, 2013
Kinky boyfriend needs a leg up
Plus: Top reasons why you
should
sleep with that colleague
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Jul 18, 2013
Does sex cause STIs?
And other uncomplicated questions. Plus: An easier anal experience.
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Apr 18, 2013
Dick Hole, don't panic
Plus: Improved orgasms with weed!
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Dec 19, 2012
My brother’s peeper
Kinky bros post pics online. Plus: separating extreme fantasies from an extremely bad past.
By Dan Savage
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Arts & Culture
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Art Critic's Choice
Jun 21, 2012
"Kink," regular and super
Two artists interpret sexual idiosyncasy at Design Cloud Gallery
By Sam Worley
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
May 15, 2012
Yes we cane
Plus:
Fifty Shades of Grey
, a legal gray area, and a shout-out to Obama
By Dan Savage
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Columns & Opinion
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Savage Love
Dec 8, 2011
My husband has given me permission to do my first love. Should I?
Plus: a reactionary slave, please don't call us LGBT-friendly straight guys "queer"
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Aug 18, 2011
What's in a name
Should I call my sister out on Craigslist pics? Also: How do I get my foot fetishist boyfriend off?
By Dan Savage
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Savage Love
Aug 11, 2011
Big Reveal
How Do I Tell My Girlfriend About My Pantyhose Fetish? Also: Do chicks dig bisexual guys?
By Dan Savage
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