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City Life
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Community
Oct 27, 2020
Sex and the suburbs
The swinging lifestyle creates solace and friendship for those seeking sexual freedom.
By S. Nicole Lane
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Dec 20, 2018
Wannabe face sittees need not apply—no really
Quick hits on kinks and consent. Plus: a short not sweet DTMFA.
By Dan Savage
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Nov 15, 2018
‘I've always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me’
Tips for getting into bondage without being a menace or a creep. Plus: Dan issues the fastest DTMFA ever!
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Oct 24, 2018
Constructive Advice Thoughtfully Sought by a gay young adult
A primer on pet-play fetishes. Plus: what do when your weed dealer pulls a Louis C.K., and more
By Dan Savage
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Feb 7, 2018
‘How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming scene?’
Amp from Watts the Safeword and two other experts advise. Plus: "I'm straight. Can I still be a bear?" and more
By Dan Savage
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Mar 24, 2016
Young, married, religious: How can I get a blow job already?
A cry for help. Plus: A cry from the opposite side, a modern Caligula, and more
By Dan Savage
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Mar 3, 2016
Ask and ye shall receive: Concise advice to prolix questions
Told to zip it, Dan Savage does his best to.
By Dan Savage
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Jul 30, 2015
A friendly guide to hosting an all-girl sex party . . .
Without looking sketchy. For women only, natch.
By Dan Savage
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Jul 23, 2015
Can a case of mono spoil your sex drive for good?
A formerly horny soldier sure hopes not. Plus: munch etiquette
By Dan Savage
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Nov 6, 2014
Help for the bad girl in need of a good spanking
Plus: 'Gomeishi doms' and a semi-incestuous foursome
By Dan Savage
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Sep 11, 2014
Uncle Dan's grab bag
Bad news for the premature ejaculator, good news for the cuckolding novice, what gives with that "little brown prince," and more
By Dan Savage
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Nov 28, 2013
So I had casual sex with an ax murderer
Plus: Rob Delaney offers advice on dating someone with depression.
By Dan Savage
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Jul 31, 2013
A portrait of the artists (OK, that might be a stretch) as 18-year-old porno directors
What started as a joke between two college students has led to a casting call, an awkward audition, and several hours of (so far) PG-rated footage. How far will they take it?
By Aimee Levitt
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Bleader
Jun 4, 2013
Not so hideous kinky: A conversation with photographer Gracie Hagen
The Chicago photographer explores the world of fetish.
By Sarah Nardi
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Savage Love
Apr 4, 2013
Weighing mustache and motorcycle rides
Plus: A husband's kinky fantasy, a student's older acquaintance, and another view on surrogate partner therapy.
By Dan Savage
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