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Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 29, 2020
My boyfriend just wants to be tied up, called names, and hurt

A conversation about kinks
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, kinks, dom, fetish

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Mar 5, 2020
Should I treat my throat like a Fleshlight?

Plus, advice for a man who just wants his wife to wear a fake cast.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex, fleshlight, cast, fetish, oral sex

Music, Music Feature Dec 10, 2019
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Rapbrarian Roy Kinsey finds his voice in queer hip-hop

With his next album, he wants to make the music he wishes he’d heard as a young man.
- By Leor Galil
- Tags: Music Feature, Roy Kinsey, rapper, librarian, rapbrarian, Blackie: A Story by Roy Kinsey, Blackie, Kinsey: A Memoir, gay, queer, Futurehood, Not Normal Tapes, Not Normal Tapes & Records, Ralph Rivera, Banjee Report, RoyAl, DePaul University, AliveOne, Tonic Room, Keep the Receipt, Beautiful Only, Isabel Wilkerson, The Warmth of Other Suns, Helen Thompson, Great Migration, Steppenwolf, LookOut, Marcy-Newberry Association, Chicago Public Library, CPL, Wang’s, Boystown, Fetish, Nick Castle, DJ Castle, Doc Ill, Jack Hill, Push Beats, Rookie of the Year, Austin-Irving, Dominican University, Harold Washington Library, Lyricist Loft, Mike Jones, Mike Schpitz, Grumpy Old Men, For Colored Boys, Jungle Book, Phoelix, Red Black and Green, Ring Ring, Anthony Pabey, Aceb00mbap, Erik Wallace, Mister Wallace, Mykki Blanco, Cakes da Killa, BSAYF, Saya Naomi, Video

Film, Film Issue May 8, 2019
Meet the new pornographers who want to make adult entertainment better for everyone

Inside the world of “beautifully shot, ethically made, and sexy smut.”
- By S. Nicole Lane
- Tags: Film Issue, feminist porn, ethical porn, Eden Newmar, Lust Garden, Erika Lust, Tristan Taormino, male gaze, fair labor practices, Candida Vadala, Femme Productions, Gail Dines, Alejandra Guerrero, Chelsea Ross, Spin, Mistress Velvet, fetish, erotica, adult film, Annie Sprinkle

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 6, 2018
‘Help, I’m afraid my disgusting adult baby husband may choose his diapers over me!’

What to do when you're unwillingly married to a fetishist.
Plus: edging. Is it safe?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Savage Love, Dan Savage, adult baby, fetish, diaper porn, adult-size diapers, David Ley, ABDL, Pup Jackson, kink card, diaper lover, diaper fetishist, edging, masturbation, Ejaculation Frequency and Risk of Prostate Cancer, European Urology

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Feb 28, 2018
‘Should I be worried about STDs from oral sex?’

And other no-brainers from the slush pile
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, knife play, fetish, masturbation, dogs, STD, oral sex, gay bathhouses, open relationship, ass play, monogamy, marital affair, blow job, Instagram, spanking, GGG, good, giving, and game, DTMFA, dump the motherfucker already

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Feb 23, 2017
The key to actualizing sexual fantasies? Acknowledging them.

Plus: An underwear-foot fetish, and a woman wants more from her prudish husband.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, sexual fantasies, underwear, fetish, prudishness

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Nov 20, 2014
The kind of letter that gets Dan Savage in trouble

It's that kind of kink. Plus: knives and other sticking points of consensual bondage
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, trans guy, transgender, Dan Savage, Savage Love, clitoris, fetish, BDSM, gerbiling, Brian Fitzsimmons, University of British Columbia, orgasm, Jodi Arias, Travis Alexander, Nancy Grace, Kim Kardashian, bondage

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love May 8, 2014
Boundary disputes

Plus: Getting off without getting on top, and being open to your hubby in panties (come on, it's his birthday).
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, lesbian, break-up, sex buddies, friends with benefits, NSA, one-night stand, orgasms, fake orgasms, long distance relationship, transgender, cisgender, fetish, vanilla sex, Emily "Dear Prudence" Yoffe

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Aug 22, 2013
Should parents Pamper a diaper swiper?

Plus: Are missing fingers an impediment to finding love?
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, dirty diapers, fetish, Jesse Bering, Slate, Scientific American, masturbation, panty hose, paraphilia, chores, theft, therapist, kleptomania, Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us, counseling, disfigured, Walter Reed

Arts & Culture, Show us your [____] Mar 20, 2013
Show us your . . . BDSM dungeon

This week the Leather Rose Association shows us its BDSM dungeon, filled with bondage furniture.
- By Gwynedd Stuart
- Tags: Show us your [____], Leather Rose Association, BDSM dungeon, Saint Andrew, Min, Aurora, International Mr. Leather, fetish

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Sep 26, 2012
Folsom Street Blues

Are public displays of perversion bad for equality? Plus: equitable anal sex.
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Folsom Street Fair, gay leather, fetish, BDSM, sadomasochism, civil rights, LGBT equality, pride parades, gay rights movement, Stonewall, butt plugs, anal sex, anal play, pegging, oral sex, first dates

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Jun 23, 2011
Savage Love: So what kind of porn can a future doctor do?

Plus: She's got a tough decision to make, and hey, fisting, can be awesome
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, Dan Savage, Rick Santorum, fisting, amateur porn, HUMP!, molested, sexual abuse, Anthony Weiner, fetish

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 21, 2011
Savage Love: How Can Breast Milk be Sexy?

Plus: How to get over her fear of penises, accommodating an odd fetish, and life as a sexual tourist
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex advice, phobia, co-worker, breast milk, childbirth, fetish, defecation, bi-curious, Dan Savage, GGG

Columns & Opinion, Savage Love Apr 7, 2011
Savage Love: Is He Creepy, or Really Into Trannies?

Plus: Etiquette for smells down there, and her photo fetish is making her man mad
- By Dan Savage
- Tags: Savage Love, sex advice, Dan Savage, transgender, relationships, hygiene, fetish

Reader, Matches blog Dec 20, 2010
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The Island of Misfit Dates

Sticking to my resolution this year, reminded again where yellow snow comes from, and the most obvious thing not to do in front of your date.
- By Heartbroker
- Tags: Mismatched: Bad Dates, Great Stories, 2011, Ball Drops, Candy Cane, Cheese Ball, Chicago, Christmas, D'Agostino's, Date, December, doctors, eggnog, Fetish, Food, Google, Grinch, Hangover, Holidays, Matchbox, New Year, Omen, Party, Pee, Resolution, Santa, Snow, Super Powers, The Ramones, Warm, Winter, Yellow Snow, Video

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A conversation about kinks

Plus, advice for a man who just wants his wife to wear a fake cast.

With his next album, he wants to make the music he wishes he’d heard as a young man.

Inside the world of “beautifully shot, ethically made, and sexy smut.”

What to do when you're unwillingly married to a fetishist. Plus: edging. Is it safe?

And other no-brainers from the slush pile

Plus: An underwear-foot fetish, and a woman wants more from her prudish husband.

It's that kind of kink. Plus: knives and other sticking points of consensual bondage

Plus: Getting off without getting on top, and being open to your hubby in panties (come on, it's his birthday).

Plus: Are missing fingers an impediment to finding love?

This week the Leather Rose Association shows us its BDSM dungeon, filled with bondage furniture.

Are public displays of perversion bad for equality? Plus: equitable anal sex.

Plus: She's got a tough decision to make, and hey, fisting, can be awesome

Plus: How to get over her fear of penises, accommodating an odd fetish, and life as a sexual tourist

Plus: Etiquette for smells down there, and her photo fetish is making her man mad

Sticking to my resolution this year, reminded again where yellow snow comes from, and the most obvious thing not to do in front of your date.

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