By Dan Savage

Savage Love Archive

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June 25, 2009 Here’s the thing: after she paid off her credit card debt, she stopped escorting. I’d like her to continue part-time until she finds a career. She’s mixed on this.

June 18, 2009 I’ve been with my current boyfriend for about three years and we are living together. About a year ago our relationship started to go bad when I found out I was pregnant and ended up having an abortion. Every time I look at him, all I see is this baby I didn’t have, and I feel horrible to the point where now I don’t like him to even touch me anymore.

June 11, 2009 Now we're looking into electrical play. And our question is about cattle prods. Are they safe?

June 4, 2009 You were discussing marriage at three months?

May 28, 2009 My boyfriend is a wonderful man with a beauty that overwhelms me; we have a beautiful home; I'm monogamous for the first time in a decade. But I just learned that I'm the spitting image of a man in jail for raping him.

May 21, 2009 Where are your social skills, douchebag?

May 14, 2009 More stupidity and opportunism: Bristol Palin is now a spokesperson for an organization that encourages teenagers to abstain from having sex.

May 7, 2009 Testosterone is the crystal meth of hormones, a badass drug, and men are more likely to be abusive and violent.

April 30, 2009 From now on, instead of saying "retard" or "That's so retarded," I'm going to say "leotard" and "That's so leotarded."

April 23, 2009 When friends say “Your personality is intense,” what they typically mean is “You’re an asshole.”

April 16, 2009 I’ve been able to contain my attraction just fine up to now, but the minute she entered my space I had this feeling that all bets are off. I’m considering spying on her with a hidden surveillance cam. If I had video of this girl naked, let alone being fucked, I could happily beat off to the footage for the rest of my life.

April 9, 2009 You’re gonna have to have a long talk with the little shit, DAD. First, apologize for snooping—accidentally, of course, during a “renovation.” Then bring up the sex toys.

April 2, 2009 The sad fact is that some of us will die at the hands of our intimates. Do what you can to minimize your risk—and not just on the Internet. Yes, George Weber took the wrong guy home. So did Laci Peterson.

March 26, 2009 It’s amazing how the sight of something as innocuous yet titillating as a movie poster can, if a young man lays eyes on it at just the right moment, endow him with a lifelong, love-life-complicating fetish.

March 19, 2009 It was on the phone that she told me about her rape fantasy: she’s always fantasized about being kidnapped by a stranger from a public place like the grocery store, held in a dark room over the weekend, and forced to do whatever her captor wants.

March 12, 2009 He’s admitted that his sex drive has been a problem in his previous relationships. I guess I’m just getting to the point where one of these days, I’m going to fuck a minor-league soccer team.

March 5, 2009 Well aren't you a shallow piece of shit. I mean, do you love this man for who he is or how he looks? What about the person he is on the inside? Just kidding, TBG, I’m totally on your side.

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